Dear Friends
I am now in Japan and going to finish my masters level in civil engineering from Osaka university. I will enroll in P.hd. in this April session. I frequently read this Kurakani in sajha.com.Today I also want to participate in it. Before enrolling to P.hd. I am planning to get married because I am fed up with this lonely life. I have not any girl friends untill now. As all of you know getting married is not like buying a macdonalds in a resturaant. I am already 29. I need suggestions that what kind of girl is suitable for me..older than me or just slightly younger or very younger.

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लौ हेर हुँदा हुँदा साझा त केटी खोज्?ने ठाउँ पो भएछ।
म पनि विज्ञापन दिनु पर्?ला जस्?तो छ गाँठे ।

Cheers,

Mondyminded adopt a sister for your family not a wifey. lol

I understand Koirala's dillemma.
The older you get, the harder it is to find the criteria of a good wife.
In younger ages, just the looks are enough...
But, they say matches are made in heaven, so don't worry, be happy.
We'll get what we deserve.

=)) O.K.ji ko answer malai ni chitta bujyo...Gau ki khojnu Koirala Ji....hehehehe

Koirala Bandhu,

I don't know if your thread is just another propoganda for nothing as most the thread we present in Sajha. May be you are for real. I don't know.

Khushi Lagyo Padhaee Garnu Bhako Raichha " Kaka-chesta, bako dhyanam, swana-nidra Tathai-ba-cha, eeSTRI tyagi, alpa-hari Vidhyathri PANCH LAKSYANAM". Yo slok Tapaee-ma pani lagu bhako chha, Phd GARNA lagnu bhako raicha, dherai ramro. Padhaee Sajilo Kura Chaina, natra Duniyale Padhne Thiye.

Keti Tira Nalagi Padhaee Garnu ajha Garva Garne Kura chha. Natra, IE-BE katauna pani garo huntyo hola. Tesma Anandako anubhuti Garnus, kinaki tapaeelai, maan-ma kata kata, GF bhayena bhane chiso pani paseko jasto lagyo, Manobaigyanik Bislesan Garda. Ani Auta Kura, affno Jindagi Bojh Nathanu hola, GF Bhayera Kehi Lachhar-pato Lagaudainana. Tyo Abanati-ko Bato Matrai Ho. Bas Yeti Samjhinus:

" Premika Daar-ko Ghar HO; Sri-mati Jeevan-ko Bhar Ho" Sri-mati Khojnus.

Tara, Biye Pachhi Pani, Jeevan- ma Tayar Hunus Aklai Bachna, Samasya Na-aula Bhanna Sakina Tyaha-pani. Hami Jeevan-ma Pratek Paal Akai Hunchhau Koirala ji, Affno Maanlai Kahile Kahi Akanta-ma Lagera Hernus, Bislesan Garnus Gahiriyera, Jawaf Milchha. Ho Sathi Chahinchha, Tara Yatra ta Kebal Tapaee-ko Ho. Bhabitabya Auna Sakchha, Samandha-ma, Nalarbaraunus, Suva-kamana Yahalai, OK ji le bhane jasto, BA-AMALAI- YA AFFNO HITAISHI SANGA sahayog linus. Tyo Nai Bhar-pardo Madyam ho, Yahako Naba Jeevan Suruwat-ko.

Bastabikata Tito Hunchha Koirala ji. Ma Bhanna Daraudina. Sajha-ma ta Hami Sabai LANGADA CHHAU, ANDHA ra BAHIRA CHHAU, samandhako kura garda. ANI LUCHA ra CHHUCHA chhau Hami. Hami Lai Affnai Samanda Kaha-pairo Gaee Rahechha, Kaha PWAL pari Rahechha THAHA chaina. SAMBANDHA-ko PARIBHASHA bujheka chhainau Hamile. Yaha Kasai Bata Sahayog Ko Apeksya Nagarnu hola.

BHAGBANKO GHAR GAYO BHANE BAR MILCHHA, RAK-KSHYAS-KO GHAR MA GAYE DAAR MATRA MILCHHA. baba-aama BHAGBAN HUNU HUNCHHA, WAHAKO SARAN MA JANU TAPAEEKO DHARMA HO. KRIPAYA JANUS. Yehi Binti-ka Sath Bida.

-BD

P.S Yaha dherai Sujhab Paunu bhanyo, Thread Suru garu bhayo yahale, Uttar pani dinus, Bhag-linus yi Pratikriya-ma. Atma Biswas { SELF-ESTEEM - HIGH } Badaunus

Ok jee, I am quite satisfied with your reply.In Japan most of the Nepalese students come as a graduate students after getting government scholarship. That is why almost all girls who come here are married. I think in the united states there are many unmarried nepalese girls because it is realatively easier to go to USA as an undergraduate student. If there are some beautiful girls, could you introduce them to me? Aba ta 29 barsha bhayiyo, Budho ta bhandainan?

Bhandainan koirala ji
i'm also 29...
budho haina aba ta Uncle bhanchhan...
of course that is if we go and start stalking 19yrs old girls...
if u go for over 22-23, we should be okay...
Girls look mature guys re.
tesai hola

नेउपानेजी, तपाइपनि अबिवाहित हो? किन यति ढिलो सम्?म बिबाह नगरिकन

बस्?नुभएको? मत रीसचँ (अनुसन्?धान) गर्?दा-गर्?दै बुढो भए. यो पढेर पनि केहि नापिने होइन/ तपाइको पहाड चै कहा पर्?यो हौ?
पूवँ कि पस्?चिम्??

Neupane ji. you are for real. hee..."UNCLE BHANCHHAN". Then, After few yrs, "BAJE". Well. That is the trend of life. Have to accept it, right?

-BD

koirala and Bd,
yes that's the truth of life, it seems long to pass but once gone, is just a memory...
i used to think that one day i'll become my mom's age (that time my mom was around 30 and me around 12) and now i'm there, i used to think 30 yrs is old he he...
time not only flies, it has hyper speed...
aba keti ko barema ta class 5 dekhi nai socheko thiye ni, tara ke garne, sochda sochdai 30 barse bhaiyechha :-)
yestai ho, koirala ji, tapai padhera busy hunu vo, hami padne bahana garera busy baniyo.
kahile sochda sochdai barsa gayo, kahile ke padne ke padne bhanera bityo, ani Amrika tira lagda ta jhanai barbaad... kahile major change garda few years lost vayo, na padhai chhito sakiyo na Gharjam nai vayo :-(
uhi narad khatiwada le bhanya jastai
Boka bhaye ganayera daamlo chudainsakthe,
moola bhaye chhippiyera kaath pasisakthyo bhanne geet gaaunu parla...

Ma ta Gorkhali hoon, tapaiko baru kata ho ghar?
gorkha ma ta tanna chhan koirala haru...

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Dibya Raj Ji,
Since you opened the fire, why don't you post your bio-data in matrimonial section of Sajha.com. Just by doing PhD doesn't make you eligible to get girls. Girls today have become very demanding;) Who knows, you might get lucky to get our own sajha girls.

And, you're right, getting married is not like buying "a macdonalds in a resturaant"... It is more like buying 3 layer Cheeseburger at McDonald Restaurant. :P

Regarding the original post; all I got to say is I hope I am not as clueless, or for that matter even post such an "interesting" post in an online forum so as to find a bride for yours truly.

Now, moving on to "kta haru lai chaine catogary yehi ho," by our very own MoneyMinded, Yeso ma pani affidavit bhardim ki bhanera ;).

1.should love our mother like own mother
-> Yes that will be nice. But that is only possible if our mother will love her like her own mother does, or for that matter if our mother loves her like their own daughter. One can not just 'love' someone else's mother like their own, as important as it is for his/her better-half's, (or in her case, worse half's) mother like their own. But it will be nice if she can indeed love my mother like her own. I will try to do that to her mother; that should do the trick ;). Got to give more to get much more. Re kya :) hehe.

2. she should be like daughter in family
-> Indeed she shall be. Of course, provided that the family treats her like a daughter.

3. she should have proper knowladge of diligence and manner
-> Yep. And it works both ways.

4. she should respect all our respective
-> Just the way we shall respect hers.

(Assuming that 'respective' , in this case, meant 'relatives')

5. she should love her husband
-> Just the way we'lll love her (Even more will be appreciate much more ;)) This should be an axiom. Without this, there is no base to build anything. It has to be given.

6. she should be the women behind the success
-> Or I could be the man behind hers ;). I can be a house husband. Hehe, yeuta kura ni. :p Or how about walking side by side? As long as it works out between the couple. I have no preference. I will have it wither way.

Oh, by the way good luck Mr. Koirala. I'll pray for you mate. Hehehe

Praying...
IndisGuise:)

The more complicate you make , the more complicate it gets.. pahila pahila buda pakha haru layee didn' have to think so much. Now it's getting complicated like building a space rocket..Suprisingly thier married life worked like a charm and ours are falling apart like a old paral ko hut in mansoon..... We're influenced by westerns, and we have conditions and complications.. no wonder most of us living in US and western Europe are budho bokas and budhi bakhrees.... better act soon .....

Koirala Ji,
Amrica ma bhko bhaye paila Keti milauthe tyo maan napare ko bhaye Keta ta pakai milauthe Tara tapai aarkai MULUK ma parnu bhayechha. esma mero bhannu kehi chaina hazoor lai...
Hehehehehe

दिब्यराजजी,
तपाईँले मलाई पो लमी बनाउने सुर कस्नु भो यार। कस्तो जापानमा बसेर पनि अमेरीका तिर आँखा लाउनु भा त केटी खोज्न?

छन त छन्, अमेरीकामा पनि नेपाली केटीहरु, टन्नै छन्। तर राम्रैसँग भेट्न चाहिँ डिस्को, बार, जीम, पार्टीमा जानु पर्छ। मेरो चाहिँ त्यस्ता ठाँउमा जाने अनुमति मिल्दैन, घरबाट। कि बगालै लेर जानु परो, कि चुपलागेर घरमै बस्नु परो। तेसैले तपाईँले मलाई लगाको काम पुरा होला जस्तो चाहीँ लागेन। बरु गाँउका चाहिने हो भने चाहिँ, यसो विचार गर्न सकिन्छ। टाढैबाट भे नि कुरा बढाउन सकिएला।

यहाँका नेपाली केटीहरु अमेरीकन भन्दा पनि आधुनिक भैसकेका छन्। अत्याधुनिक नै खोज्नु भा भे चाहिँ, पहिले तपाई परिवरिवर्तन हुनु परो। हेर्नु भन माथी मेट्रिक्सरोज ले दिएको उतर "यस्तै तालले हो भने चाहिँ, कसैले पनि तपाईसँग बिहे गर्दैन रे"। भनाईको मतलब तपाईँको लेखाई धेर सोझो भो रे। सोझो मान्छेलाई कुनै केटीले पनि मन पराउँदैनन् रे क्या। कुरा सहि हो, कि तपाई बाङगो हुनु परो र बाङगै केटी खोज्नु परो, नत्र सोझो मान्छेले सोझै केटी खोज्नु परो।

ल कतातिर ढल्किने बल तपाईँकै कोटमा छ। सोच्नुस, बिचार गर्नुस्, अनि मलाई खबर गर्नुस्।
सधैँ तपाईँको,
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ओके

लु लु ओके जि
लमी बन्ने भए हामी पनि लाइनमा बस्नुपर्ला जस्तो छ
:-)

Newuser jee, are you the same man who wrote an interesting story "Chabi harayeko Rat"? From this story what I can guess is that you are really good in literature. The language was very nice . I am very much impressed by your story and your feelings about marriage. Though the story might be fictitious this is the reality of most Nepalese youths.There is no man in the world who does not like to get married. But due to various circumstances it is not possible.

In my opinion , the appropriate age for male to get married is around 25-26 and for female is around 22-23. For me, the money is not the problem. Now I have only three months left to finish Masters.Then immediately I will enroll in Ph.D.In Japan Ph.D. course is only for three years.and unlike in the USA it is research based not credit based. So we have to work hard to finish within time. Moreover Japanese societies is more strict thanUS societies.Wehave to show good performance every time.

If I go to Nepal to get married, there will certainly be some loss in time. English is not used in Japan. The girl who will come here as my wife will have problem in language to socialize in Japanese societyand feel homesick as I will be busy in my research all the time. Today I have a slightlybitter experience about not getting married. My professer had invited all of the foreign students for dinner at his home. All of us went his home together but in a different way. Others with their beautiful wives and children in a happy mode and me lonely. When we reached his home others's wives helped in kitchen. I just sat smok ing in corner.I wished I had got married... Now what do you suggest? Should I get married now thinking that life is important than education or wait for three years untill I finish my Ph.D.Please advice me taking one position exactly. By the way newuser Jee, where are you from in Nepal? What level are you studying in USA. I am form Jhapa district of Nepal.

Neupanejee, ok jee, bhanglidamini jee, Zalim sing jee harulai Namaskar. Please Keep in touch.

Divya bandu, getting marriage is hard and keeping it is much more harder and difficult. So my advice keep quite and finish your phd.

DRKji,

Kuro ta apthero paryo ni ta. Bihe garna hataar pani garne, pheri ahile bihe garay language barrier ra time dina nasakne bhanera pir pani garne.

I think you should consider the following:

1. Euti Japanese nai bihe garnus. Language ra socialization ko pani problem bhaena, ani afno budha lai khub maya garchan bhanne suneko thie Japanese haru le.

2. Nepali nai bihe garne ho bhane chahi ki tyahi settle bhaeka kohi Nepali khojnus (uniharu ko visa status bujhnus ni, natra complication aula).

3. Hoina bhane ghar ma khabar garnus, at least you can tell them..Japanese janne chahi khojnu bhanera. Nabhae afoo chutti ma Nepal gaeko bela language institute haru tira jhinga hanna gae ni huncha.

4. Eklai kuna pasera churot tannu pareko mention garnu bhaeko cha. Bihe garne umer ma kina jyu dhan ko xyati gariraheko? Churot banda garay tapai ko chanas badhcha.

5. Yeso matrimonial site haru tira post garnus na.

6. Seriously though, wait until you become Dr. Koirala. Aba yettika barsa kuriyo, arko 3 barsa ta ke ho ra, tyo pani testo busy manche lai. You will be around 32 then, and I think that is a perfect age hai bihe garna lai. Aba 25-26 mai bihe garne jawana ta gaisakyo ho.

La, all the best. Ani yeso nimto card badhne bela hami lai nabirsanu hola.

Listen to chipledhunga ....well said....:)