I hope the OP realized why I was complaining against this post. Either he did or he knew it all along and created this thread to create a stir and get some attention.

I am sure you have some level of high education, probably been to places and worked in a good environment. In this day and age, you still don't understand the negative connotation attached to few words? I bet those who use this word also use the words, Madhisey, Jyapu freely without thinking it is offensive. Well, news flash, few of the words you and I used as kids are NOT acceptable now in the civilized society. Stop calling that street vendor a Madhisey and that Sherpa dai a bhotey.

Now you will say what's the big deal with Pakhey. Well, the very reason this word is offensive is it creates a divide. A divide between those people who think they are well off and have negative view of the rest. Why are people who cannot pronounce a word, they way you pronounce, different and deserving humiliation (admit it, Pakhey is never used in a positive context)? Unless you were born here or came here before your early teens, your pronunciation will be different to most of the native speakers, should they call you hillbilly?

I have no doubt that people who use this word have low self esteem. They have been treated unfairly, or have perceived to be treated unfairly, and take every opportunity to look down upon others whenever they get a chance. Like I said earlier, none of the people I know who are well educated and civilized use this word these days.

Stop this Kathmandu vs Outsiders battle. We, as a country, have done nothing to be proud of; we are all on the same basket as long as we identify ourselves as Nepali. Get outside, talk to people and you will see where the world is heading towards and where you guys have been stuck.