Posted by: lovelynepaligirl May 31, 2013
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I recently came across this post on a thread by a guy called Rudra prasad Upadhyay (below) and I thought to myself are you kidding me? I do not drink, I'am presuing a double major in finance and accounting planning to go to law school next year and I surely dress very modern and classy. So who is the presumptious one? Nepali girls or Nepali guys like these. I see TONNES of men like this from upper middle class families and their long list of fullfillments is just ridiculous. Who do you think you are? Your spending the rest of your life with a human being choose your partner wisely not just as a list of perfections to cross off on your list of traits. I would say there should be 3-4 MAJOR things at the most. Any girl will prefer a guy that has a good heart above anything else specially not someone that expects a custom made robot. Tell me all guys are not like this? Because I have my life together but sheesh I have my bad days too.
Many Nepali girls in the US are a tad presumptuous for my tastes, and being a pretty traditional guy, these girls are just not appealing to me. I have met tons of girls of the traditional persuasion in the US of A , but most of these girls predominantly dress like they came straight from some gaun in Nepal, and don't speak even a lick of English. So I'm not talking about the gaunle type--I am using "traditional" in the Western sense of the word. A friend of mine recently got married, and it was arranged, to a Nepalese American born and raised in the United States, who, as far as I know, is pretty laid back and down-to-earth, not to mention traditional. Hell, she doesn't even drink, for crying out loud! That girl's a gem for sure. She has a Master's degree from a good school as well, and makes loads of money--in fact more money than my friend does. So, I would say that this girl is the ideal type for me, although girls of this type are far and few between.
To sum it up:
1. I want an intelligent girl. If you're more intelligent than I am, that is not a problem. But please do not rub it in. I want someone who reads books, and lots of them. I want someone with whom I can have quality conversations; with whom I can argue and discuss politics and various other contemporary issues. I want someone with her own views on things. I don't want a yes-woman.
2. I want a traditional girl in the Western sense of the word. Knowing how to look elegent in Western clothing is always a plus. I do not want someone who dresses like a 2-cent hooker either. Just be modest and dress like an American without being too ostentatious. I do not want someone whose idea of dressing classy is showing off the cleavage area.
3. I do not want a motor mouth either. You listen to me, and I listen to you, and that's how things work.
4. I like to spend my precious time alone. I work 5 days a week and I need to rest on weekends. That's how I am. Some people may say that I'm a loner. I'm an introvert, no doubt. I don't mind going to a movie theatre once in a while. I don't want a party animal who drags me to every Nepali party out there. No offense to anyone, but personally, I avoid Nepali parties. I have been to only one Nepali concert a few years ago, and only because my cousin wanted me to go with him, and I must say that I sure as hell didn't enjoy it.
5. My background is different from most Nepalis in the United States. I came to the United States as an immigrant, and not a student. I have my parents right next to me, watching every little move I make--so I have never had the opportunity to indulge in juvenile stuff. I expect my honewala to share this background, if possible. If not, at least empathize with me.
6. I can't cook. But big whoop. Cooking is a learning process. If you don't know how to cook, I'm fine with it. We'll learn it together.
7. You must work. You should have a Master's degree. If you haven't found a job yet, I'll help you out.
8. I don't drink or smoke. I expect you to be of the same persuasion.
9. You don't necessarily have to be in the United States. If you're in Nepal, I'm fine with it as long as you're my type of gal.
Hmm, this is it.
Of course, you can never find someone who's like you, but this would be the ideal girl I would want.
Many Nepali girls in the US are a tad presumptuous for my tastes, and being a pretty traditional guy, these girls are just not appealing to me. I have met tons of girls of the traditional persuasion in the US of A , but most of these girls predominantly dress like they came straight from some gaun in Nepal, and don't speak even a lick of English. So I'm not talking about the gaunle type--I am using "traditional" in the Western sense of the word. A friend of mine recently got married, and it was arranged, to a Nepalese American born and raised in the United States, who, as far as I know, is pretty laid back and down-to-earth, not to mention traditional. Hell, she doesn't even drink, for crying out loud! That girl's a gem for sure. She has a Master's degree from a good school as well, and makes loads of money--in fact more money than my friend does. So, I would say that this girl is the ideal type for me, although girls of this type are far and few between.
To sum it up:
1. I want an intelligent girl. If you're more intelligent than I am, that is not a problem. But please do not rub it in. I want someone who reads books, and lots of them. I want someone with whom I can have quality conversations; with whom I can argue and discuss politics and various other contemporary issues. I want someone with her own views on things. I don't want a yes-woman.
2. I want a traditional girl in the Western sense of the word. Knowing how to look elegent in Western clothing is always a plus. I do not want someone who dresses like a 2-cent hooker either. Just be modest and dress like an American without being too ostentatious. I do not want someone whose idea of dressing classy is showing off the cleavage area.
3. I do not want a motor mouth either. You listen to me, and I listen to you, and that's how things work.
4. I like to spend my precious time alone. I work 5 days a week and I need to rest on weekends. That's how I am. Some people may say that I'm a loner. I'm an introvert, no doubt. I don't mind going to a movie theatre once in a while. I don't want a party animal who drags me to every Nepali party out there. No offense to anyone, but personally, I avoid Nepali parties. I have been to only one Nepali concert a few years ago, and only because my cousin wanted me to go with him, and I must say that I sure as hell didn't enjoy it.
5. My background is different from most Nepalis in the United States. I came to the United States as an immigrant, and not a student. I have my parents right next to me, watching every little move I make--so I have never had the opportunity to indulge in juvenile stuff. I expect my honewala to share this background, if possible. If not, at least empathize with me.
6. I can't cook. But big whoop. Cooking is a learning process. If you don't know how to cook, I'm fine with it. We'll learn it together.
7. You must work. You should have a Master's degree. If you haven't found a job yet, I'll help you out.
8. I don't drink or smoke. I expect you to be of the same persuasion.
9. You don't necessarily have to be in the United States. If you're in Nepal, I'm fine with it as long as you're my type of gal.
Hmm, this is it.
Of course, you can never find someone who's like you, but this would be the ideal girl I would want.