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 Nepali guys in the US too demanding? Specially so called 'traditionalists'.
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Posted on 05-31-13 7:03 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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I recently came across this post on a thread by a guy called Rudra prasad Upadhyay (below) and I thought to myself are you kidding me? I do not drink, I'am presuing a double major in finance and accounting planning to go to law school next year and I surely dress very modern and classy. So who is the presumptious one? Nepali girls or Nepali guys like these. I see TONNES of men like this from upper middle class families and their long list of fullfillments is just ridiculous. Who do you think you are? Your spending the rest of your life with a human being choose your partner wisely not just as a list of perfections to cross off on your list of traits. I would say there should be 3-4 MAJOR things at the most. Any girl will prefer a guy that has a good heart above anything else specially not someone that expects a custom made robot. Tell me all guys are not like this? Because I have my life together but sheesh I have my bad days too.

Many Nepali girls in the US are a tad presumptuous for my tastes, and being a pretty traditional guy, these girls are just not appealing to me. I have met tons of girls of the traditional persuasion in the US of A , but most of these girls predominantly dress like they came straight from some gaun in Nepal, and don't speak even a lick of English. So I'm not talking about the gaunle type--I am using "traditional" in the Western sense of the word. A friend of mine recently got married, and it was arranged, to a Nepalese American born and raised in the United States, who, as far as I know, is pretty laid back and down-to-earth, not to mention traditional. Hell, she doesn't even drink, for crying out loud! That girl's a gem for sure. She has a Master's degree from a good school as well, and makes loads of money--in fact more money than my friend does. So, I would say that this girl is the ideal type for me, although girls of this type are far and few between.
To sum it up:
1. I want an intelligent girl. If you're more intelligent than I am, that is not a problem. But please do not rub it in. I want someone who reads books, and lots of them. I want someone with whom I can have quality conversations; with whom I can argue and discuss politics and various other contemporary issues. I want someone with her own views on things. I don't want a yes-woman.
2. I want a traditional girl in the Western sense of the word. Knowing how to look elegent in Western clothing is always a plus. I do not want someone who dresses like a 2-cent hooker either. Just be modest and dress like an American without being too ostentatious. I do not want someone whose idea of dressing classy is showing off the cleavage area.
3. I do not want a motor mouth either. You listen to me, and I listen to you, and that's how things work.
4. I like to spend my precious time alone. I work 5 days a week and I need to rest on weekends. That's how I am. Some people may say that I'm a loner. I'm an introvert, no doubt. I don't mind going to a movie theatre once in a while. I don't want a party animal who drags me to every Nepali party out there. No offense to anyone, but personally, I avoid Nepali parties. I have been to only one Nepali concert a few years ago, and only because my cousin wanted me to go with him, and I must say that I sure as hell didn't enjoy it.
5. My background is different from most Nepalis in the United States. I came to the United States as an immigrant, and not a student. I have my parents right next to me, watching every little move I make--so I have never had the opportunity to indulge in juvenile stuff. I expect my honewala to share this background, if possible. If not, at least empathize with me.
6. I can't cook. But big whoop. Cooking is a learning process. If you don't know how to cook, I'm fine with it. We'll learn it together.
7. You must work. You should have a Master's degree. If you haven't found a job yet, I'll help you out.
8. I don't drink or smoke. I expect you to be of the same persuasion.
9. You don't necessarily have to be in the United States. If you're in Nepal, I'm fine with it as long as you're my type of gal.

Hmm, this is it.

Of course, you can never find someone who's like you, but this would be the ideal girl I would want.

Posted on 05-31-13 8:08 PM     [Snapshot: 55]     Reply [Subscribe]
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If I were you, first I would get that word ' Want' out of my head, 
root of all miseries. 
by the way, you sounded improved version of 'Raj Kumar Pandey' 

Best of Luck with your search 

Posted on 06-01-13 2:31 AM     [Snapshot: 518]     Reply [Subscribe]
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@pepsi, thanks .. I thought OP was a guy..

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How many girls Rudra Prasad want to marry?

Posted on 06-01-13 12:58 PM     [Snapshot: 851]     Reply [Subscribe]
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What a conceited idiot!  Who does he think he is? Prince of Monaco? 
Posted on 06-01-13 4:32 PM     [Snapshot: 1074]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Good things come to people who expect the least from others, and are content in their own self. This guy clearly doesn't have both. Good luck to him because he really needs it 
Posted on 06-01-13 6:19 PM     [Snapshot: 1132]     Reply [Subscribe]
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LovelyNepaliGirl: No not everyone is like Rudra. 

Getting back to Rudra's: The paragraph preceding the points..... Rudra, you are an idiot!
You should have just written the 9 points. They were fine, except for # 7. MUST??

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Rudra prasad Upadhyay is a pakhe. He just doesn't know it
Posted on 06-01-13 11:59 PM     [Snapshot: 1353]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Well said Power Ranger, this guy is nothing but a pakhe. Look at  what he expects from women!!!!!!!!!! First you tell me what capabilities you have to be even considered by a good woman.
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Posted on 06-02-13 1:14 AM     [Snapshot: 1429]     Reply [Subscribe]
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all he needs is vagina.. that all is bull..
penises are penises

Posted on 06-02-13 8:57 AM     [Snapshot: 1589]     Reply [Subscribe]
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Niggaz be wanting a wife who plays video games, watch sports, who has tattoos, wear jordans and has an ability to hold an intellectual conversation... Sounds like you want a husband nigga!!
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Hey Rudra (what a name),

Did you find the girl?

Posted on 06-02-13 7:45 PM     [Snapshot: 1863]     Reply [Subscribe]
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We just waste too much time looking for perfect partner rather than creating perfect love.
Posted on 06-03-13 12:18 AM     [Snapshot: 1998]     Reply [Subscribe]
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An interesting article for all to read. Take the time to read it and understand its truth and importance in any relationship. I'm certain that every person who reads this will learn something out of it 

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
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