Posted by: junkynfunky February 10, 2013
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To BS- No matter how many advice you get, the real change has to come from within yourself. So here are a few questions for you to answer yourself.
1. How open are you to suggestions? Do you only want to hear the stuff that confirms and reaffirms your pre-established world view or are you able to peek outside the bubble and take things from fresh perspective?
2. For your relationship and friendship problems, looks like so far you are approaching people with a clinched fist rather than an open arms? An open arm usually translates into a warm hug for another person, followed by a smile. Physical proximity might help but chances are a phone call might just do the right trick as well.
3. May be you are walking with clinched fist due to your own insecurities. Or may be your ego and machoness is getting in the way. We men (I assumed you are a guy, I maybe wrong) tend to think from the d**k sometimes , you know that thing called testosterone.Can you think rationally about your insecurities and try to improve a few small steps at a time?
4. The fact that you came out and opened about your problem shows you are moving in the right direction. Don't be afraid to ask for help when needed. The world outside might not be as cynical as you presume.
4. Are you able to walk a few miles in somebody else's shoe before judging that person? (for your first impression and cynical persona)
5. Are you a perfectionist inside or better yet are you being too hard on yourself? Finishing masters at 25 sounds like a achievement to me? Are you celebrating small things in life rather than lamenting every nitty gritty stuff? Every morning wake up and fill in the blanks for
I am grateful for __________. See how that goes?
6.Do you take any recreational drugs including weed? ( I am giving you the benefit of doubt here, I have so far assumed you dont do it, no offence) You dont have to answer it in public forum but you know what to do. Steer away from it.
7. I personally have found inspirational video on TED to be short, to the point and eye opening. It might be worth a shot.
8. Last and foremost, know the difference between lonliness and solitude. They may look the same, but solitude provides you ample opportunity to think and reflect on life. It is a prefect moment for soul searching. So, be grateful for solitude but don't linger on it so much that it ruins your relationship with others. That is one more thing to be grateful for.
Cheers and a warm hug your way in the most non-gayish brotherly love possible.
PS I tried to paste a smiley, but looks like my teen years are way behind me.It didn't work.
1. How open are you to suggestions? Do you only want to hear the stuff that confirms and reaffirms your pre-established world view or are you able to peek outside the bubble and take things from fresh perspective?
2. For your relationship and friendship problems, looks like so far you are approaching people with a clinched fist rather than an open arms? An open arm usually translates into a warm hug for another person, followed by a smile. Physical proximity might help but chances are a phone call might just do the right trick as well.
3. May be you are walking with clinched fist due to your own insecurities. Or may be your ego and machoness is getting in the way. We men (I assumed you are a guy, I maybe wrong) tend to think from the d**k sometimes , you know that thing called testosterone.Can you think rationally about your insecurities and try to improve a few small steps at a time?
4. The fact that you came out and opened about your problem shows you are moving in the right direction. Don't be afraid to ask for help when needed. The world outside might not be as cynical as you presume.
4. Are you able to walk a few miles in somebody else's shoe before judging that person? (for your first impression and cynical persona)
5. Are you a perfectionist inside or better yet are you being too hard on yourself? Finishing masters at 25 sounds like a achievement to me? Are you celebrating small things in life rather than lamenting every nitty gritty stuff? Every morning wake up and fill in the blanks for
I am grateful for __________. See how that goes?
6.Do you take any recreational drugs including weed? ( I am giving you the benefit of doubt here, I have so far assumed you dont do it, no offence) You dont have to answer it in public forum but you know what to do. Steer away from it.
7. I personally have found inspirational video on TED to be short, to the point and eye opening. It might be worth a shot.
8. Last and foremost, know the difference between lonliness and solitude. They may look the same, but solitude provides you ample opportunity to think and reflect on life. It is a prefect moment for soul searching. So, be grateful for solitude but don't linger on it so much that it ruins your relationship with others. That is one more thing to be grateful for.
Cheers and a warm hug your way in the most non-gayish brotherly love possible.
PS I tried to paste a smiley, but looks like my teen years are way behind me.It didn't work.