Just sharing her to throw out my agony and pain here. Its been 2 weeks out of KTM valley. I haven't found any NA meetings or place where i can share? I am not asking for any suggestion or help. This is just give and take session here. Just a hope and courage session. Today, i know the power of sharing. Whenever i get change to throw out, i love to do that. Lately, even i have been visiting church to confess being hindu as well. Anyways all i am asking here is to listen. Thats all frenz

I met this gal in Nepal during my marketing session. She is working for this big foregin company as marketing executive. She was very impressed with me on just a call. She thought i was not Nepalese. She call me in her office on morning. I went there well dressed as deputy director of my company. That is what my business card reads. I told her my name is KC. She thought i was kasey. Well she was shocked to see me as she was expecting some other citizen. We have a long conversation for hours. She loved the products and quality, i was providing. I offer her good price then what she was getting. You know me, i start to flirt with her. I was able to get her mobile no. I told her " do u like coffee?" , she smiled and said Yes, las kush in thamel has nice brewed coffee. I told her i prefer nice roasted beans, I dont like filter coffee. She told me they have best coffee in town. I looked at her and smiled then asked her if it is possible to go for coffee after work. She told me, if i am free laterz work. I told her that i will call her after lunch.
well blah blah blah, aba mero guff ta gai halcha ne....

now we start to date each other and it been going since then. She is from birjung and was married. She dont have any kids. She lives alone in flat with her sister. I do spend lot of time with her. She is newar and well u know me...........i am kc. I love her but she dont have any plan to get married in future so far. She says she is not mentally ready. She wants to stay with me as now. Well, lets say we are almost like husband wife. We meet each other often. We go to lunch together as our office is15 min away by walking distance. I spend lot of time in her house. I stay there and we even has just changed decor in her flat from curtain to carpet. We both have put our dreams and desire there. I spend every saturday and sunday with her.
I dont mind to stay like that forever with her. In other hand my family is forcing me to get married and whenever i ask her. She says go ahead but she will still be my first wife. The gal i will marry will be my second wife. She says, she wont get hurt. Whenever i face this reality, it is painful. I have told my family about her, they say it is not ok, If i want i can go ahead. They are just doing it for my shake coz they are afraid that i might be alcoholic again. She has also bigger role to change my alcoholic to recovering today.

Just cant understand my life .....always get in strange situtation....never had a normal as other have. I am responsible for it as well.

thanks for listening

uhi recovering addict
moneyminded

Just read your last para. It sound pretty clear to me. Why do u want to have new gal? I don't know if you're seeking for an advice or not. Watch the movie called 'Matchpoint'. Don't try to be smarter. Sorry if i'm being rude. I guess u shud go ahead n' marry her rather than spoiling 2 lives.

why is she spending time with you if she doesn't want to seriously settle down into some sort of relationship?
this is the thing bugging me.

okie! I need to be bit open here. You are rite Gwajyo mate but you can see me in state of confusion as well. My unconsieus is telling me to get rid of her. My subconsieus is telling me to be with her. I am adjusting myself here and there. I feel like supressing that idle part of mine. I should not be spoling 2 lives.

lonely gal,
She wants to settle down outside of nepal. I want to settle in nepal. There we go so she is making compromise for me and I am about to sacrifice one in 2. Dont know which will be sacrificed.


uhi recovering addict
moneyminded

yup..who knows what a girl is thinking....they say something, they have something else in their mind, and they do something totally different than what they say and think.

Money,

After reading your HW it sounds like you write an imagination essay .....

mansion,
What a girl wants is plain simple."love+commitment"don know why guys can't give even that much.
so instead of pondering upon what a girl wants,why don't guys just remain true to their partners?

moneyminded pal,
i think she's concerned abt the response she's gonna get from the society if she marries again?
convince her that you don't care about what people think and that you'll always remain the same for her.that shud help a bit.all she needs is security from your side incase the society backfires.

i think guys are more commited towards a relationship than a girl is.

Just because you love someone doesn't mean you've to be married.

yup u can just date for 4 yrs till you finsh your undergrad..may be throw in 6 more months of bonus..till you find a job...and then find someone else to get married wth...wish i was that smart..hehe

He he he MM bro :)

Jai hoss Prabhu jai hoss. Am lovin' it.

Best wishes...
IndisGuise:)

lonely
u should stay single. never marry haii. gives u all the freedom in the world, if you know what i mean.
what say u?

oops
wrong thread. sorry.

Mansion, the thing u said "guys r more commmitted towards a relationship than a girl" made me roll with laughter.
guys r aggressive in the beginning of the relationship,or shud i say when they're initiating the relationship.when they get the girl's atttention and love, they start searching for a new bird.
let me also not make this sort of generalisation.
i'll say "good guys seen to b in the hand of wrong girls and vice versa".

Gorkhalikanchhi, if we don't marry the one we love then what r we supposed to do?leave him and marry someone else? why love him in the first place if we were to leave him?

lonely. keti ji...yup, you should just date me loz.

mansion, date you to be left alone after you graduate after 4 yrs?
no way.

u dont have to worry about that, i already graduated,2 yrs back.

graduated 2 yrs back and still single?u want me to believe that?
i don't wanna burn down someone else's house to build my own.said that already.

yesssssssss

Gurlllllllu, How you? Long tyaam...

MM biradar killin' me softly once again with his ever changin' love story... eh!!! Phew, ishq di galli bich no entry? You makin' me take a "chalaang" in sisnu ko jhaang or rather hang myself on a soft branch of a small tree. eh... ke ke ke ke!!! Good bless you. Try rum... eh... Ghum ka saathi rum. eh....

La where am I? 15 more to go? eh.