Is it shame, specially for a guy, to remain Virgin before marriage, under normal circumstances ?

Not if he is asexual.

Ofcourse not....you start having physical relationship...when you KNOW... you are ready. No one has right to interfere in such things.

Pices..
Do you mind marrying a Nepali girl who is not a virgin ?

If you expect that guys should not remain virgin before marriage then dont get surprised to find your wife was not virgin before marriage as well for very simple reason,that is, it will be completely unreasonable and unfair to expect something from your spouse while you cant offer the same thing to her.

At least for me, I dont see if being virgin (or lacking it) will make me feel any better or worse, nor would it make me shameful or dignified.

chao..bro

I don't know about this "virgin" "non-virgin" stuff. Though lot of my western(ized) friends scoff at the idea of one being virgin till one gets married, I actually admire the guy/gal for being able to resist today's society's pressure and temptations and be able to save oneself for that special person one vows to live life with. But then, if one is not virgin physically, one could still enter the marriage as a virgin if one bestows oneself to the spouse with total dedication, commitment and clean heart.

Nonetheless, point does come to mind, best would be to be able to give one's physical, spiritual virginity to the right person, who is not only your first partner in carnal experience, but also your first love, your life-long partner, your soulmate.

Netaji wrote --"Pisces, Do you mind marrying a Nepali girl who is not a virgin ?"

Why not? Won't you? But will you marry a girl who flirts around with many guys, had laid with not just one but with many ? I will not, in that case. I dont even mind if a girl is divorced or broke up with her BF, even though I am virgin. Like Riten wrote - my principle is - save oneself to special person one vows to live life with. So just to prove myself a MAN infront of non-virgin dudes, is it necessary to pick whoever, just to get labeled ?

oh no, not the virginity discussion again! in all fairness, i think pisces was asking an original question (about why it might be ok for a guy to remain a virgin). it was neta ji who misunderstood the orignial question, and asked a different question (about whether you would or would not marry a non virgin bride), which is why this thread will most likely be a duplicate of another discussion we have had before.

I need some real comments from girls.. How would she feel in the first place that her would-be-husband is VIRGIN. Nonetheless, virgin wouldn't be issue for home grown girl in Nepal, but what about those Nepalese girls who are else where, outside Nepal?

if a guy is not a virgin b4 marriage i think he shouldnt have any problem marrying a gal who isnt a virgin either !!! furthermore, even for a virgin guy (ie b4 marriage) i dont think it should be a problem marrying a gal whos not a virgin... if they have strong understanding between themselves.. n really luv each other... same applies for the girls.....

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Changing trends in sex


Caesar Rana

- A recent survey of mostly unmarried students between 16 to 24 years conducted by the Nepal National Weekly magazine reveals that more than one third of them had had some experience of sexual intercourse. But this alone is hardly the most intriguing finding. Rather the fact that, despite increased interest in sex, discussions about it still remain a taboo. Be it between parents and children, teachers and students or even amongst friends, talks of sex raise a lot more eyelids than what ought to be its fair share.This probably has a lot to do with our notion that not talking about sex means not caring about it. However, sex is something that you can?t simply ignore. Just ask sex specialist Dr Rajendra Bhadra who says that it is natural for young couples to have premarital sex, despite it being a huge taboo."Besides, 16 to 24 is the most potent and sexually active age for any individual," he maintains.
So sex can?t be deleted from the lives and thoughts of young people. But is it really alright to have sex before marriage?A majority of young men, a staggering 56% actually, and 19% of college women, think it is. But the decision to abstain or to let loose passion is totally a personal one, although sex education might certainly be of great help in making the right one.

Unfortunately, awareness of sex remains as obscure a subject as sex itself. Saliza Ghimire, a participant from the White House (WH) College in an interaction program related to sex education, explains. "We only know and understand a very few things about sex, and they say that little knowledge is even more dangerous. So sex education must be included right from the school itself."

The advantages of sex education are many. But most importantly, it helps us understand that you and I aren?t the only ones who think about sex all the time. Or the fact that we might be only one of the 63% of girls and 46% of boys who derive sexual pleasures from pornographic movies. And also that, two out of three people you meet will have masturbated. To some people, this might not sound pretty. But let?s admit it; sex is now an open secret. It?s like

everyone has some ideas about it but hardly anyone wants to talk about.Furthermore, this culture of silence and secrecy could actually be devastating, as our sexual exploits increase but awareness of its risks does not. Just imagine, if we don?t? know how to put on

a condom the right side up,

how can we ever be assured of being safe from AIDS and other STDs as well as unwanted pregnancy? Whatever couldn?t have

gone wrong for the 19% of young men whose first sexual

partners were professional sex workers?And, definitely, a teenage bride with a baby already inside her only sounds cool in the lyrics of a song about California.

But being a traditional society that ours is, raising awareness of sex doesn?t seem to be easy, even for the educators of sex education themselves."If the teacher himself (or herself) blushes red out of shame and embarrassment when discussing about matters of sexuality, how can we students continue to lift up out heads and look at him (or her)?" questions Laxman Thakur of the Nobel Academy.

And, not surprisingly, most parents are even more distant when it comes to being open about sex. Will a teenager ever be able to talk to his father about his first wet dream? Not anytime soon apparently, as Bishal Gyawali of WH will tell you. "I was worried sick about what had happened after my first wet dream," he says.

We?ll know that he is not alone when it comes to that. It?s the same predicament when girls approach or have their first menstrual cycle in their dear lives. Who to get counsel and courage from on the great issues of the "birds and bees"?In the end, whether as the culmination of love or a materialization of our primal instincts, sex will always be a part of our life. The looming question is: When will our society be able to accept this, as it is?

Lastly, the film, "Kinsey", on the recently deceased American sex researcher of the mid-20th century and his academic "sexploitations" would be an eye opener for both sex educationists and male-female sexual partners. It?s worth

examining how Kinsey took the fun out of sex by emphasizing only on the physical and negating the metaphysical and spiritual aspects of procreation; how his modern obstructionist methods may already have destroyed the empiricism of the joy of

sex through pornography, wife/partner swapping, rape, pedophilia, molestation of underage girls, which Kinsey approved of in one way or the other.

virginity is not a problem when love is around...and anyways who cares for virginity in this century...u must be livin in the 18th century to care for virginity...and i also quite agree with NEtaa Ji...if u want ur partner to be virgin u should remain one too...don't u??

I believe the same as some of you guys believe in: "virginity is not an issue to get married". This contemporary age, there are a lot of erotic materials or components, that the erotica can help to arouse your sexual desire. In fact, People break their virgin very easily. The button line is: I don't get married to a girl who takes the sexual matter is not embarrassing
yes Retan; the total dedication, commitment and clean heart are the most important values for both, husband and wife...... Unless you are not going to get married there wouldn't be the caring, trust, familiarity, emotional & physical combination, love, and even commitment.

I need some real comments from girls.. How would she feel in the first place that her would-be-husband is VIRGIN
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You should not be even asking such things...cause i really dont see any problem in it.

But then again....sex is an important part of any such relationship..... it is often an expression of trust and commitment in a relationship. I think it is important that a couple is able to have sex before marriage, and learn to trust each other, and deal with all that drama before they get married. . If they get married and then discover they are uncomfortable having sex together for whatever reasons... well that would be unfortunate.

I also think sex is definately a special thing that should only be shared with someone you love. However, that doesn't mean that you have to wait till you get married to do it. I don't have a problem with people sleeping around with everyone, but it is certainly not something I'm going to do. Sex connects two people in body and spirit... it's impossible to separate the two.

For me sex is ok before marrige. If someone disagreeses with that conclusions it's fine by me, but don't try to harp that .... IT'S A SIN!!! hehe You are free to live your life by your values as long as you allow others to live their lives the way they want.

During my college days just 2 years ago it was amazing to find that the girls and guys would get really embarrased to let their friends know that that they were still. Most of the girls would tell their friends that they are already experienced even if they were still virgin. It took a lot of my effort on my ex-GF to let her word out that shw was still a virgin and she was comfortable to admit that.

Many guys I talked to said that they would not have sex with a girl who is virgin just because the lack of experience (in the girl) would make guys feel really uncomfortable.

I agree with those guys.

LOL! Tal na betal ko disscussion. Na Tauko na Puchar.

tyo auta quote cha ni, "viriginity is not a diginity, its lack of oppurtunity" :P

on a serious note: i agree with martrix girl?? do i ?? :P

Ladies, if you're a virgin, better find yourself a Santitation engineer(aka a garbageman) or a custodian(aka a janitor)--the types that are desperate to fvck anything that moves, know what I mean? They are cheaper by the dozen, and these hunks will happily let you swallow their love-juice--in fact not just swallow it, but allow you to suck it dry and let you salvage the remaining vestige of his natural protein shake he has in his tank(aka testicles) in your refrigerator. Now, the process I have described heretofore only devirginizes your mouth. Now, devirginizing your hoo ha is a little bit tricky. Always remember that bars are rampant with sexaholics looking for a nighter with you. Now, I have glory holed more than a handful stud-muffins in my 25 years of life, so I am talking from experience. Keep in mind that swingers clubs DO in fact allow single women to enter. If you're a man, then you need to come with a partner who shares your idea of fun. Else, the bouncer's gonna bounce you all the way to Texas!

The last resort is always your neighborhood pleasure dome rife with giggolos willing to fulfill your every fantasy.

If you're a young man, Michael Jackson's Neverland Ranch is indeed the best bet. You would love being referred to as BLOWHOLD by mj, would you not?

For those of the homosexual persuasion, worry not! Gays are more promiscuous than the rest of the population. Warning though, clean off that santorum once your tush has received a push, know what I mean? Better do it while taking a bath so you don't have to worry about a thing!

These are my advice for now. Hear more from me later on this subject.

rohini-a sounds terrific in sex-preaching.

MatrixGirl you have an interesting point. But most girls end up having tremendous experience, like rohini-a has pronounced, from the day 1 as a virgin. Eventually, it becomes two guys you study with or work with, then comes a neighbor and then a handful etc. If a girl goes down that path it won't be long before she finds that she is a used toilet paper... might be good when paper is scarce otherwise nobody uses it... not even for those who poke things that move! This should be taken as a rule rather than a law, though.
No offense! Enjoy poking as much as being poked!

u all sud watch the movie, CLOSER.

CLOSER..........the only reason i took my one way gf is that itz rated R.....and rated R under sexual content...........

The story just....suck.....but some of the sence made me awake the whole time while i was watching the movie......

U know...confuse ji....they should hav sub titles on theaters too....yar cant understant wat they are saying.....they talk soo fast.......saachi....

No commentz by for the topic on VIRGIN.................taking on the topic "virgin" are for the ppl who dont get the oppertunity to take or giv their verginity.....


PEase ;ut

a guy from ktm decides to get married so he looks for the girl in town. he comes to the conclussion that all the girls in town are already had sex he decides to go to some village to find a virgin girl. he finds one in the village and decides to marry her. on the way back to town he thinks it would be better to have sex with his virgin bride in a proper location so doesnt have sex with her. all on the way how fun it would be to have their honeymoon on a five star hotel suit. when they reach the town he rents a beautiful suit and have sex with her. next morning when his wife wakes up she asks him when they gonna have their honey moon so he tells her that the thing they did last night was the honey moon. the girl replies ; " testo ta hami gai charauna jada gau ma kati gariyo gariyo.........testo jabo po raichha honeymoon bhaneko"
watch out guys