I'm not a Newar brahmin. I'm a Pahari(Upadhyay) brahmin. Looks like you're quite soft on Indian brahmins because of your supposed marriage to an Indian brahmin. Brahmins from one location don't accept brahmins from another location for purposes of marriage. For example a Keralaite brahmin will more than likely not marry a Tamil Brahmin. There are regional differences. But what's sad is that you don't even know that you're not supposed to marry someone who belongs to your own Gotra. This is what you said earlier: "And I'm married to a Indian Brahmin that has the same Kul Devta, same gotra and same origin as mine" Same gotra? You basically abused what gotra stands for by marrying someone of the same gotra. I find your analogy of Mewar/Newar to be quite hilarious. Nair also sounds like Newar if you ask me. Newari brahmins, even though do not have their own gotra, do go through their bratabanda ritual. Nobody has imposed this on them. They had it even before other ethnicites arrived in Nepal. Also, stop insulting "chinkies". Do something about your own soot-black face first.