Shame on you Furke. If you cant say something nice then don't say anything at all. You are a disgusting and insensitive person. You are disgusting people when u say something. Who knows what people have done in their previous life, who knows previous or next life even exists, even it does, who knows what have you done in previous life.
@Daredream, Good luck with your process, if you have really thought to go through that again. But don't be too harsh on yourself, having kid only is not everything. Love yourself and love your life. Everything will be fine. Take care.