I don't think that you have to be white to have independence, make your own decisions on life, career, partners.....if you haven't noticed more nepali women whether in nepal or the us are becoming more independent and learning how to make their own decisions...they have the freedom to choose their partners...it doesn't mean that they're trying to copy the "white" people...i think that they're just moving ahead and have realized that they don't need to be under the suppression of men or the society.... And just because you're white doesn not mean that you have the capability to make your own decisions...i mean i think your using the term"white" a lil bit too loosely. what about all those white people that aren't educated?...(yes they do exist), who live in poverty....all you're seeing is the shiny exterior but if u scratch the surface you'll find that there's more to white ppl...than they're forwardness....i mean look at the amish...aren't they white?...but why haven't they adapted to the ways of the rest of the country or evn the world...they still wear clothes that are dated...they're living like people in the 18th century....my point is white isn't always right...look at all the successful african americans....asian....hispanics ...what about them...why do the white ppl have to set an example for you..why can't we look up to other races?...and i think it's quite superficial ..that u judge a person bye what they're wearing...jus coz a nepali wears jeans and skirts and such doesn't give that person a one up over some one who wear kurtas and saris...like sitara said u can look damn sexy in a sari jus as u would in a micro mini...but then again there's classy versus trashy...but that's totally different....anyways... i'm not saying people who are "fashion forwad are fools"...but the justification u (sweetie) gave for yourself being "fashion forward"...i don't know if i made my point or if i even had a point...i'm jus typing away and i'm not taking sides...jus voicing my 2 cents...if you can make sense out of it..