Posted by: Rekab Brown August 24, 2015
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I can't blame someone who had a bad experience because I would feel the exact same way if I was in your situation. Yes, many Western women do not like guys to be bossy.
I also don't blame people for thinking about the divorce rate, sometimes I even discriminate against my own kind(If I think of myself with an American man for example sometimes I fear he will divorce or something silly like that) My family is not normal as far as Americans go. My grandparents have been together 60 years, my parents have been married 28 years and only to each other. Both my aunts were cheated on ,but neither one left their husbands for divorce.
I think people should be judged as an individual and not as a stereotype.
If you talk in general then yes some things are true, just like some things are true about Nepalis,but the fact is you have to consider the individual, especially in the US where we a mixture of different cultures.
I agree with you bittertruth if it is a romance that started as a hookup it is not a good idea, people who engage in hookups are not the kinds who want to be committed and the basis of the relationship will be something very superficial.
In my case as I stated I am celibate, and my boyfriend and I fell for one another because of our common interests and the fact that we shared common morals. I cannot tell you how hard it is to find a guy in this country who actually values marriage and does not do drugs. Of course there exists good American men who are marriage minded and clean,but it is very hard to find as so so many just smoke weed and think marriage is a "trap".
I've never been someone to play around. To be honest with you all one thing I absolutely hate about my culture is the hookup culture. I think it is gross, indecent and it has given anyone who is an American the issue of dealing with this stupid stereotype. Try to imagine how frustrating it is for someone like me to have to deal with people thinking that because I'm white that I'm slutty when I have never even been with a man! It is even seen as weird here because of my age too. That is why when I first posted here I said I knew I would be judged. I know. I know what you think of Americans, and frankly I cannot blame you because if I were to try to deny that many Americans are not this way I would be lying.So what I can do is ask that when you encounter or hear of an American try to get to know them personally instead of throwing a grand generalization. Because not all of us like to play around with men at bars. And yes, submissive American women do exist! Especially in the midwest and the south, women are more submissive.
I also don't blame people for thinking about the divorce rate, sometimes I even discriminate against my own kind(If I think of myself with an American man for example sometimes I fear he will divorce or something silly like that) My family is not normal as far as Americans go. My grandparents have been together 60 years, my parents have been married 28 years and only to each other. Both my aunts were cheated on ,but neither one left their husbands for divorce.
I think people should be judged as an individual and not as a stereotype.
If you talk in general then yes some things are true, just like some things are true about Nepalis,but the fact is you have to consider the individual, especially in the US where we a mixture of different cultures.
I agree with you bittertruth if it is a romance that started as a hookup it is not a good idea, people who engage in hookups are not the kinds who want to be committed and the basis of the relationship will be something very superficial.
In my case as I stated I am celibate, and my boyfriend and I fell for one another because of our common interests and the fact that we shared common morals. I cannot tell you how hard it is to find a guy in this country who actually values marriage and does not do drugs. Of course there exists good American men who are marriage minded and clean,but it is very hard to find as so so many just smoke weed and think marriage is a "trap".
I've never been someone to play around. To be honest with you all one thing I absolutely hate about my culture is the hookup culture. I think it is gross, indecent and it has given anyone who is an American the issue of dealing with this stupid stereotype. Try to imagine how frustrating it is for someone like me to have to deal with people thinking that because I'm white that I'm slutty when I have never even been with a man! It is even seen as weird here because of my age too. That is why when I first posted here I said I knew I would be judged. I know. I know what you think of Americans, and frankly I cannot blame you because if I were to try to deny that many Americans are not this way I would be lying.So what I can do is ask that when you encounter or hear of an American try to get to know them personally instead of throwing a grand generalization. Because not all of us like to play around with men at bars. And yes, submissive American women do exist! Especially in the midwest and the south, women are more submissive.
Last edited: 24-Aug-15 08:41 PM