I am curious to learn about the root of this infamous sub-cultural prejudice against Jhapalis and Syanjalis by many who consider themselves non-Jhapalis. I will not make an attempt to shove my opinion on OC, no matter how much I dislike her opinion. There are many specific studies around 'unlearning automatic biases' but I am sure all my tirade towards OC's post will not make a dent to change her mind.

We are all victims of our own biases. Should I call this out as a subtle cultural inconvenience? I bet many will agree that it is more than subtle and a major inconvenience, especially when putting forth a perceptual point about biased thread like this. In Maha Jodi's 'Pandhra Gate', there is a scene where a father is opposed to his daughter potentially marrying a guy from a family that eats 'Dhindo' (although the serial is about caste system), I took that analogy to point out that some families in Kathmandu are disinclined to let their children marry outside the valley, more so with 'Dera Wals'or renters. Again a biased perception. By the way, I am from Saptari and lived only few years in Kathmandu, in a dera, so my perception about Kathmandu based families showing distaste in marrying away to a migrant dera wal is ingrained in me due to my personal circumstance. I am an outsider in Kathmandu and a dera wal; so the prejudice. I remember my cousin, from Siraha and currently a CTO in an Orange, CA tech company, had a hard time finding a woman to marry in Kathmandu. Last year, his mom was reminiscing that many families had retracted marriage conversation after they knew my cousins were living in a dera in Kathmandu. Eventually, he ended up marrying a girl from Kathmandu anyways, my point was to say, hey! I am not making sense. No matter how much I analogize, my bias reflects. We all know how altruistic, mellow, doped, sexy, intellectual, smelly, ugly, cunning and courteous Jhapalis are. But we seldom realize that's an attribute of all humans. Could we ban @MEverest, for thinking the way she does?
For me, I believe emigration and US education helped to tone down some of my personal prejudices. Which I concluded to believe that I would be more susceptible to stereotyping had I lived in the same place where I was born and received a homogeneous education. I then extrapolated, in my mind, that those circumstances give rise to subtle cultural dissonances shared by @MEverest.


http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11708562
http://www.quora.com/Are-most-stereotypes-true-Is-it-ever-okay-to-stereotype