Sitara Jee: For some unknown reasons, I always thought you were married.Thanks for the comments on the article. It shouldn't be hard to find out whether someone is possessive.You will notice it without any difficulty in everyday circumstances.(This is before you commit) You both should work hard to fulfill each other's realistic demands.You should be bold enough to say No to unrealistic ones.Or explain why they are being unrealistic.So, it shouldn't be a problem.At least, for people of our level. Co-dependency (in broad meaning) is both good and bad in a relationship.It shouldn't be in extremes though.We are capable enough to balance it.A problem occurs only if "Co-dependency" changes to "dependency". If I can be of any help in locating your "match made in heaven", you know where to find me..:) DP.