Thank you for your replies.

I understand that it is impossible to follow everything like in Nepal tara je bhaye pani as a mark of respect for Hajurba and our traditions I would like to follow the mukh barne as best as I can. It is hard to do everything like not eat out because that would mean that I would have to bring food from home, which would be difficult.

But thank you for your replies and for your condolences. They really helped me and put things in perspective. 

Thuldai