One part of my job is to have good PR. I won’t call myself a social bird but once in a while, doing some Public/Personal Relation is a good exercise. During such actions, I meet different people with different conceptions and ideas. Some of the things people share are very interesting. This is a latest one I heard. Day before yesterday, I was at a fancy restaurant sipping some coffee with a friend of mine from work. She said she has invited another friend of hers for coffee. I said I am cool with it.
After 10 minutes or so, this good looking guy, very well dress comes and hugs my friend. I was like WOW! I won’t lie but his looks impressed me. 5’10 height, lean, good sharp haircut and most important clean guy, I would give me 9 out of 10 in his looks. Now the real conversation starts. He was telling how successful he has been in all his investments and his ventures. He even told me about his very big super duper money bang on project. (I like people who are smart and know how to handle their life).
Over the conversation, he started pulling in people from different walks of life. How he coming from a middle class family had been able to make it this far and big. His father was not a millionaire and how he struggled to get where he is today. Not like some big shot guy’s sons for whom everything is all set and all they have to do is to put his feet in the water. They don’t have to struggle, they don’t have to do anything, the family business is always there. Not only in Nepal, its everywhere in the world.
I was amazed by the audacity of this guy with which he is was demeaning and disrespecting people who are born with a silver spoon in their mouth. Questions that was popping in my head was, is he jealous of these guys who got it easily? Was he arrogant of his success? Am I mistaken his self esteem with pride?
All I said was, it’s not easy to give up your dreams and be a millionaires son. The first thing you lose is your identity. You will always be called so and so’s son. Ever if you start something of your own, it will always goes and blends with your family business. Your life decision making will be discussed on a board meetings and will be decided on the corporate level. Your relationship will be a page 3 juicy gossip. You cannot go out and be yourself. I have huge respect for you and people who are self made man. But you should respect people and their feelings. It’s not an easy life for them as well.
I think I lost 50% of the respect for him when he demeaned someone. I am not defending anyone. But everyone got their stories of sacrifices and we cannot be judgmental about it just because “My father is a millionaire”.