Dear Indira, Kiddo, Kali, rethink, vivant, Thane, karnali, bhakte, s_usa, adventurer, kancho, riddle and jepayotyahi, words have abandoned me to tell you how indebted I am for your replies and emopathies.

I didn’t realize it was a sensitive matter until after I posted it in sajha. I thought it was just my story but it appears everyone else, those who live overseas and have older parents at home could relate to it in so many different ways. So thank you everyone for visiting and making me realize I wasn’t the only person who was in similar predicament.

I’d like to give a shout out to kiddo for his choice in returning back to Nepal to be with his parents, it sure needs props. Kudos seriously. I am not sure how secure you are financially and from your career standpoint, but considering the person you are from your replies and inputs in sajha, those variables should have made no difference for you to make this magnanimous decision. Unfortunately for me it does, I still struggle to accept the fact that I will find a job (that comes with credibility and integrity) in Nepal. And even if I do, there will be a lot of pushbacks, actually from my parents the most. I guess I could bite the bullet and just start packing and turn deaf ears to all persuasions, but I cannot because I know for a fact I sincerely lack such valor.

On the same note I talked to one of my best friends over the weekend who plans to return back home soon to be with her family. So it seems there are actually few people who believe in it and understand how critical it is to be with our ailing parents. It made me feel more miserable to tell you the truth.

To your point Indira, I think my story was a little open for misinterpretation (for which I take the blame). I guess my point is, we are not talking about our inability to reciprocate love to our parents; it is about who do we focus more on, our parents or our kids? And when it comes to the latter I doubt anyone else would replace them.

One of the best part of it was I got a message from none other than Deep, who has disappeared from sajha (presumably for good reasons) these days, that he took an opportunity to go through this story. That meant a LOT to me. I wish he returned.

I’d like to apologize that I didn’t acknowledge your replies soon enough and brought this defunct thread back to the sajha homepage again, I had a roller coaster week at work since last.