@ sojhoketo..... Honesty can be measured from different angles. You seem to understand it as if your wife has sex with some other guy then she is not honest with you. At the same time, you are not honest with your wife by not providing the freedom she deserves. If you love her, you must let her free. Where there is limitation, there is bondage and slavery. If you want to make your wife a slave of your desires and your version of reality aka "honesty based on sex' then good luck !

The state of mind which I am talking about requires many years of intense practice of contemplation and concentration. It is not about being cool by letting your wife have sex with some other guy. For yogis, sex is like taking a shower. Why should I make big deal out of it? Let her take the shower whenever she wants ! For yogis, this body is merely a cloth where all blissful Atma dwells. Rest is all dream. Do I care about dreams? Absolutely not.