Nepalihost, Couldn't agree more with you. That's why these days I try to act a little smarter but I am the most dumb person when it comes to such issues. Among many instance the worst one was where I helped my own relative (distant dewar) for around 2 weeks and his sali for about a month and half. I had school too but wasn't working so had plenty of time. He was in LA actually and said he didn't had the credit card to buy the ticket to SFO. My husband sponsored the ticket and when they were here I tried each and every way to make her and him feel like their own home. I was literally Nepal ma kaam garnae manche jastai (looking back, but at that time I though I was helping them). After that I visited Nepal for a months. The guy I helped always pretended to act like he and his family were super busy and all and the worst part is our home is like 1 min apart. Again, he had to come to US and he would inform me like a mth earlier that he was coming and he would send us the detail once everything was finalized. I really wanted to say I din't wanted to host him this time but, I didn't wanted to ruin the reputation of my family back home and unwillingly I did it again. I visited Nepal again for 3 mth, 5 mth earlier and again they didn't even come to visit me. I personally feel we ppl living here in US are much more helping and especially if its relatives we try every possible way to help them. But, when we are back home, same ppl don't even have few min for us. :( :(