Communicate, share things, and stop thinking 'if this one doesn't work, I'll find another.' Applies to your husband too. And there's no guarantee that the next one is going to be better.
Things, especially a healthy relationship, don't exist by themselves; you have to work hard to make them exist. If you don't try, it certainly won't work between you and your husband.

I think you know what you should do better than anyone here. Decise wisely.