You have chosen to be a virgin and this is your decision. How you perceive people and what you expect out of them is entirely your approach. There is no right or wrong. If one is okay with “non-virgin” wife then it is his prerogative, that doesn’t make him moral-less. On the same token, if you want a virgin wife, that is your will; that doesn’t make you a weirdo. As long as you accept the fact that non-virginity is not a sin then all’s good.
Good luck finding a wife with your specifications. If you are in love, and she is not virgin, then don’t take her as a character-less girl. As we have progressed, so has our viewpoints and it is no longer a stigma for somebody to not remain virgin until their marriage. Be open, accept change.

I hope I confused you enough.