Do you have kids or not? 
It's very hard now-a-days even for greencard holder to bring his/her spouse up here.
I don't know on what basis he filed a petition for you when he was not even a greencard holder(he must be very rich to get you over here through other means like business visa or such but that's not for permanent living, just for a short trip or so). Once he becomes a greencard holder, it 'might' take another 5-6 years for you to be approved.
And I didn't understand that "working on indian restaurant would get him green card" part. Did he move to US because of his Indian employer? or was he here on Student Visa and now started working on Indian restaurant? In either case, if he's legally here, it's just about time and after certain time, he would apply and get approved for greencard.

If you guys are in deep love, wait for each other. Don't listen to other bitchy attitude over here trying to dilute your dignity, youth don't last forever but love does and that's what you care about most right? Don't worry, once  you come to US, I've known couples here making sex even on their 60's just like they do on 30's.

And I must say yeah, live your american dream. This will be your new incarnation over here :D