i am all for constructive criticism, and believe in constantly striving to improve. however, when you say things like "nepali men/women are short/ugly," i cannot see any kind of constructive criticism. it's "destructive" criticism. let me give you examples of constructive criticism: "your writing is really nice, but you spend too much time beating around the bush, instead of jumping to the main point." or "you are a very nice guy, but you have a short fuse. if you control your temper, ppl will like you more." as gator_guy pointed out, there are things that are within our realm of control, and there are things you are born with. when i hear generalizations like "nepali men/women are ugly," i cannot help but feel sorry for the person passing those comments. it just displays an utter lack of judgement and common sense. let me offer you some constructive criticism, without appear to sound righteous - "when you are really angry and want to spite someone, don't post your writing immediately. take a walk, get some fresh air, and come back. then, think about it again without with a cool mind. that way, you will not regret you actions later" and beachlife, to respond to your comment: "I think we nepalese men dont respect women. we see them as a kitchen helper or mother of our children. We never try to look them as a life partner, pal close to heart or wife." i cannot disagree more. in my family, the women seem to have the upper hand. the men really respect (and sometimes fear) the women. perhaps the statement you make was true 50 yrs ago. i cannot speak for everyone, but from what i have seen around me (family, friends, etc.) i cannot certainly make that generalization. i've made my point.. dhanyabaad.