Tap mitra, U have spoken what i have been feeling from my heart all these days. u simply hit the nail on the head, dhanyabad mitra. me too a passive member in sajha, and surf around once in a while. i too feel proud to be nepali, and above that from an agrarian village in eastern nepal. I am badly disturbed at how this - Nepali man - nepali woman - kinda postings are getting longer and longer, and making this cyber forum look ugly. And the pathetic things are, people are discussing very shallow stuffs like - nep gals are short and ugly, and the gals party again start bashing - nep guys are short and bla bla bla. But in all these, why does one fail to think that our height and physical attributes are something that is not under our control. Arent we short or tall by nature, and thats a kinda God giftet quality. Lets not comment on one just looking at his/her appearance, but try to feel the value one has underneath. Every man is handsome and every woman is beautiful - we just gotta wear the right glass. If someone is ugly, we should rather admire the good qualities in them and boost up their morale and help them be a wonderful citizen, rather than making bad comments on them. Isnt that what we humans are supposed to do. If i am not wrong, arent we the most developed creatures on earth, and doesnt it make sense for us to behave in a decent attitude towards other. We suld not judge a person on the basis ofattributes that are beyond his / her control. Never judge a book by its cover. I never have problem being nice to an ugly person. See folks, i have some friends - both guys and gals- that are so wonderful but not good looking. They have been a wonderful companions to me, and why suld their physical looks bother me? if we look at a person at a glance, we often see bad stuffs on him/her and if we take a deeper insight, every person has some good qualitities. i remember this saying - Errors like straws upon the surface flow, to search for pearls one must dive below. So, lets be modest to people around us, and try to understand their good habits. This is how we develop a good value system and make this world a better place to live. And another kinda postings i don like over here are the ones related to sexual provocation. I find it nasty. There used to be a time when many postings with wonderful opinions came to Sajha very often, bt i have felt that it is in the decline these days. But there are good thinkers and writers in Sajha, its simply that these fluffy postings have mushroomed around. Sometimes, i woder how do they manage so much time to keep coming and bashing eachother. Dear folks, as many of our friends above have raised, please do not bash eachother for shallow reasons. Such arguments are simply ugly. its time to change and express opinions that are very decent. It does not cost to be good to others. Go gorkhali.