I am not saying I am harishchandra or anyone like that.....but only the person who is feeling it can find it hard. Its lot easier to advise people but when it comes to you its all different, you feel like you are the only one experience it in the whole world,....ONe more thing you guys need to know is....I have never had any girls before and I never followed anyone just to be in relationship or for sex...never proposed a girl......and the encounter with my cousin was just once and it was not me who started it....I never go to any dance parties, strip clubs, dont drink.....or go around for sults to sleep with....I have saved my virginity for my that precious one for such long and now I am finding it that My gf had her relationship in the past...its hard for anybody like me to experience it...I know i could overcome it but until i get married or be with my gf i think i will find it hard...If I wouldn't love her then why would I be posting such things in web to get some answers ?