M.P. Fosla got dissolved and you didn't even inform me. I was thinking maybe we should have a FOSLA SAANJh one of these days ....oh well! Now as far as the thread is concerned, its the same story over and over again. If the originator of the thread would allow a little flexibility, can I present my perspective from a slightly different angle without marring the beauty of the nepali women nor their social liberties. Before I present my view which some mind find it ludicrous, allow me to say that I have utmost respect for nepali women (since the topic is nepali women), and what I am saying below is totally out of my CRUDE observation: So yah, Gender issue has always fascinated me. Oh yah! I cannot generalize but also yah, nepali women in US have baffled me more than have actually fascinated me. Its amazing women voice and unite to form one entity when voicing their concerns for liberty and social justice and most importantly the equality with men. Then, with the slightest provocation, they wrath upon men using the same logic men use to make a point that how inferior NEPALI GUYS in US are compared to them just because they worked hard be it in a restaurant, gas station and so forth. They delineate them as lowly life creatures who can never meet their standards. Its amazing these women (note: women here implies ONLY those women whom I have discussed above) make mockery of decent, hard working Nepalis. And, ironically, these women neither do they work hard, nor they are serious about their career. They even VOW plenty of times that they don't want to hang out with nepali folks. :) How easy! All they need to do is just sit pretty and wait for a man of their dreams (beauty, brains and wealth) to whisk them away. They take for granted that they can "choose" among the best of the best . And even more interesting is the fact that such men actually succumb to such women. Its funny how life works out. Then the very women have luxury of sitting back and pointing out how sorry they are for the innocent nepali gals in nepal which these average hard working nepalis want to marry. phew! talk about opression. If women are physically oppressed, average nepali men are emotionally plundered through those multiple guessing games. ok ok ladies! before you unleash your venom, hold your horses. Allow me to show you the other side. Of course, I have had the pleasure of meeting quite a few wonderful nepali women. Women who strive to be successful, independant and make something out of their lives. Women who respect hardwork, decency and character. my heartfelt respect. But then the dilemma lingers: If the "lemme-jus-sit-pretty-gal" is paranoid about a nepali guy's job in a gas station, on what ground "career-nepali-gal" acknowledge and appreciate and possibly seek these guys as their partners? Maybe "I don't want to hurt you in the long run" is the punchline you'll hear somewhere in this context ;) Damn! what on earth am i trying to prove. Must be that tonic of ozzfest...all i wanted to say was my transition in quest from sweety to suntali didn't happen overnight :).