I know that most of your lives are between these two extremes. But I want you to see these extremes to understand the nature of your own life. And from this point of view I will explain to you my story.

If someone came to you when you were 13 years old and gave you the choice of taking these two paths, for your life, which path would you take and why?

Path number 1:
In one path, you will have amazing experiences. You will have out of the world experiences. You will gain a lot of confidence from these experiences. You will feel ecstatic. You will have experiences that most people will not have in their lifetime. But in the course of going through this experience, there will times when you will be extremely lost. You will strain to have a consistent sense of self. You will strain to find yourself.
Since your identity is with many places, you will suffer from confusion. But you will have gained a lot of experience and have travelled to many people. You can talk about a lot of things as your point of reference. You understand the lives and ways of thinking of many people. You can relate to many different colorful experiences and can describe these vividly.

Path number 2:
And the other choice you have is to never leave the Kathmandu valley. To go to the same school from grade class 1 to class 12. To have the same schedule everyday. To then go to college. And have a wife and a kid and have a super stable life and you will die pretty much by doing the same thing every day. You know what time you will eat dal bhat in the morning. You know what time you will eat tiffin/khaja in the afternoon. And you know what time you will eat roti tarkari at night.
You will basically live a "normal" average Nepali life like most Nepalese who have been born and died in Nepal have lived. It will be a life with all the pleasures and difficulties of being born and dying in Nepal. It will be boring in it's own Nepali way. It will be exciting in it's own Nepali way. But you will never ever get lost.
But your life will be super-predictable. You will know what to expect in your life at every turn. You will have the same friends from grade school till you're an old man. You will know the ins and outs of Nepali culture because you never travelled outside of Nepal. Your only point of reference is this culture. This is your core identity.
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So I know that most of you will not consciously choose Pathnumber1 or Pathnumber2.

Pathnumber1 is very scary because of so many unknowns. Few of you will consciously take that huge risk. The risk vs returns of this path is not proven. So few would jump into Pathnumber1 without making sure that there was enough return for your risk.

Pathnumber2 is very boring and stale life. Few of you will take that path also. The fact that most of you are in America means you are risk takers. You are trailblazers. If Pathnumber2 was so attractive, you would never have come to America.

So if I am correct, most of you in sajha have chosen the "middle path." The path between Pathnumber1 and Pathnumber2.