Stupida dai ko kura sunera ta man furunga bhayera January mai bihe garaun ki jasto lagi sakyo.  Especially the bit about you doing weed in front of her (I've never done weed or smoked, I'm addicted to soccer though, kun level ma bhanera one has no idea, my wife will 'suffer', that's for sure ). 

"No matter how much you spend 5,6 months or 5,6 years, You know the past and present of her. In future, how she will turn out, it will still be a mystery for you and to her as well. You can predict thet she will be this and that, based on her past and present behaviours, but then that is just a prediction. Not reality. You might increases you changes of getting right about her, but then if it goes down the hill, you will fall more hardly becuase you had high hope and expactations." 

Now that's a really valid point. Like I aforementioned, I don't think it is really possible for a couple to know each other well and truly well, inside out before marriage. Still, I suppose I was speaking in terms of the comfort zone. I mean, in an arranged marriage setting, when you talk to a girl, you know you're going to get married but surely, it'd be more comfortable for a couple to know something about each other before they decide on getting married in order to weed out issues related to compatibility. For eg: What if the girl is determined to playing the role of a housewife while the guy doesn't want that? What if the guy does weed, is a chain smoker, a lazybum playing video games all day long? You're not gonna disclose those things in your formal talk right? 

But then, people do change after getting married. One of my buddies who was doing weed and all that has turned into a 'saint'. He goes to church with his wife (he never did that before he got married), is a responsible person and has matured a lot over the past 12 months. 

Dumbfounded, come to think of it, I'm starting to wonder if I was the one who made the phone call.