Posted by: STUPIDA November 2, 2011
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FootYfan bro - your this statement ("But I'd rather, I knew my wife-to-be well enough before she waled down the aisle instead of discovering/knowing her after getting married. 
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doesn't really work in reality. Now, this is according to me. No matter how much you spend 5,6 months or 5,6 years, You know the past and present of her. In future, how she will turn out, it will still be a mystery for you and to her as well. You can predict thet she will be this and that, based on her past and present behaviours, but then that is just a prediction. Not reality. You might increases you changes of getting right about her, but then if it goes down the hill, you will fall more hardly becuase you had high hope and expactations.
Dumbfounded Ji, You made a very valid point too. But i Don't think you were ready to get married when you talk to that guy over the phone. You talked becuase he called. Offcourse, your conversation will last only few minutes. and may be you were not a good match too. My first talk over the phone with my wife lasted over two hours, long distance teyo pani international. You could have seen my face when my phone bill came.
My point is not to make Arrange marriage over Love. They are same for me as long as you are willing to toe knot together. Whatever works for ppl is best option. The only problem for me is when ppl say that they want to know each other before is just a idea ppl throw so that they can blame each other in the future when some things goes wrong. ' timi viha agadi yesto thiyoe, timi change vhayo.
Offcourse, ppl change. its just natural process. slow and steady changes are good. ani sachi Pot kura chahi sarai man-paryo. I do too every 3-4 months, But then I do infront of my wife at home. and She likes. She things I am cutest one when I do. She is just a best friend, and that was important to me. I tell her all the stories about me and my single buddies going to nude and topless bar. She trust me and I know my boundaries.
Best of luck for both of you, I wish you both will find someone your deserve and wished for.
") doesn't really work in reality. Now, this is according to me. No matter how much you spend 5,6 months or 5,6 years, You know the past and present of her. In future, how she will turn out, it will still be a mystery for you and to her as well. You can predict thet she will be this and that, based on her past and present behaviours, but then that is just a prediction. Not reality. You might increases you changes of getting right about her, but then if it goes down the hill, you will fall more hardly becuase you had high hope and expactations.
Dumbfounded Ji, You made a very valid point too. But i Don't think you were ready to get married when you talk to that guy over the phone. You talked becuase he called. Offcourse, your conversation will last only few minutes. and may be you were not a good match too. My first talk over the phone with my wife lasted over two hours, long distance teyo pani international. You could have seen my face when my phone bill came.
My point is not to make Arrange marriage over Love. They are same for me as long as you are willing to toe knot together. Whatever works for ppl is best option. The only problem for me is when ppl say that they want to know each other before is just a idea ppl throw so that they can blame each other in the future when some things goes wrong. ' timi viha agadi yesto thiyoe, timi change vhayo.
Offcourse, ppl change. its just natural process. slow and steady changes are good. ani sachi Pot kura chahi sarai man-paryo. I do too every 3-4 months, But then I do infront of my wife at home. and She likes. She things I am cutest one when I do. She is just a best friend, and that was important to me. I tell her all the stories about me and my single buddies going to nude and topless bar. She trust me and I know my boundaries.
Best of luck for both of you, I wish you both will find someone your deserve and wished for.