This post is in relation to the recent Culture of Modesty that was being preached in sajha.com that SAN dai actively put a stop to.
Sajha.com is not the only place where the need for Cultures of Modesty has gained traction as a movement.

Cultures of Modesty come from a reaction to Cultures of Showing off. We all gravitate to cultures that accept us and run away from cultures that reject us: where we don't feel like the culture gives us a sense of belonging.

Us humans are constantly trying to defend our egoes from being attacked. When we have enough of the nastiness and put-downs from cultures of Showing off, we create cultures of Modesty among people with similar needs to protect their ego.

It's funny how prevalent the culture of Modesty is in Nepal. I feel it is a reaction to the Culture of Showing off in Kathmandu where everyone is trying to look better than the other people around them, at any cost.

Sick and tired of seeing this Culture of Showing Off in Kathmandu, there are people who try to actively create Cultures of Modesty. (This is an over-simplification, to illustrate a point. ) People who cater to the Culture of Modesty are so afraid of out-shining the other people around them. They are so afraid of appearing better than the people around them. It is like they would rather sabotage themself, just so they are accepted by the 'modest group' around them, rather than be ostracized for 'appearing better.'

A Culture of Modesty is against elitism in any shape or form. It is against people taking any form of moral stance that would make them appear better or superior than another person. Of course the funny thing is that the Culture of Modesty itself is a form of elitism and a sense of superiority that comes from 'not appearing better than another person, despite having valuable assets and good qualities.' In other words the culture of Modesty says that there is some superiority in hiding the good qualities you have out of fear that it would offend the ego of people who don't have as much as you do. 
It says that there is somehow something inherently superior in being charitable with your sympathy and not taking a stance that could offend another person. It says there is somehow something superior about being humble and low and desperately hiding any or many good qualities and strengths that you have, because it draws envy from those who don't have as much.

The Culture of Modesty, while being condescending to others, for not giving them enough credit in being able to defend their own ego, prides itself for who it is: the sole blind arbiter of truth and justice. It denies giving other people the responsibility or credit to be able to defend their own egoes in their own way. It denies individuality of any form. And it creates a culture of conformism based on projecting it's own bullying and insecurity tactics on others.