man.. honestly very good presentation of your feelings... i can imagine how damaging your experiences could have been for your feelings as a nepali.. but just coz some fools called you dhoti or bihari doesnt mean...you have to think nepal is not your home but india..... if you are born in nepal and you like your nationality and the country you have just as much right to be known as a nepali or be treated equally as any other nepali... but if you are expressing your views as a nepali in a nepali forum... "jai hind" is not a word people around here are a big fan of...... and on the other hand there are nepali people of indian origin  who live in nepal, work in nepal, the food they eat is grown in nepal but they are such kind of people that, if they could, they would annex nepal to india....(so you know where the hatred or those kind of behaviour people show comes from)
                       but like i said your a nepali if you love nepal......just of an indian origin.. nepal's your home not india..... JAI NEPAL....