Most of us fall into the trap. "Am I really getting old?" or "Yeah, I wonder why I'm not married yet" and perhaps even bachelors frolicking in their freedom will be nudged into questionining their old habits. And almost as a reflex, well, maybe more out of self-doubt or to please those around us, or perhaps to please ourselves, most of us will frantically search for the "better half." Some of us will find one in the nick of time! Most of us will lament our gullibility. But no, I am not deriding the institution of marriage. It can be (or so I've heard) a blissful state. Kudos to those who enter it and reap the benefits! I am merely trying to muse on when the right time really is, knowing fully well that I am most likely chasing my own tail (not that I have one!). But it really makes us think and perhaps marvel at the fact that we DO eventually (trap or no trap) decide to embark on this journey called "marriage." Something in us impels us to take that road so often taken, yet so alarming and mortifying. I have said earlier that as humans it's difficult to think in a linear fashion, to accept ourselves, to fulfill ourselves. And marriage attaches yet another human being to us with his/her own set of beliefs, characteristics, his/her own non-linear thoughts. And we need to accept those "selves," to fulfill those "selves" too. I say "selves" for the same reason that I say that we cannot think in a linear fashion. As humans, we are creatures of many moods, many ways of being. There are corners of ourselves that we may never have visited, there are depths of ourselves where we travel to often. And then of course, there is always the issue of self-discovery. Some of us would probably throw "fate," "chance," and other favored aspects of personal philosophy into the mix. But in the end, what we have is the simple fact that we are constantly trying to test ourselves, find ourselves, lose ourselves. And in the midst of all this, there are the curious glances, the hushed voices whispering questions that speak loudly to you -- those questions about "why aren't you married?" (contd.)