It is so dumb on the part of either man or a woman to get married to the partner whom they have not desired. It is even dumber to blame on ARRANGEMENT made by someone else eg. partents, relatives, friends etc because everyone has the mind to think and power to act on wether they want to married to this perticular person. If anyone has no desire to get married to any person arranged by anyone else, the person who is about to get married should declare so and terminate the ARRANGEMENT and look for some new ARRANGEMENT of their preference. No one owns anyone's life and the decisions they make wether it's man or a woman. So far I have witnessed few arrangements that were terminated becuase either the man or the woman had different preference. In Nepali society they are the brave souls and I admire them. If someone has no guts to declare and act on something they did not prefer, it is very obvious that they deserve the discontent and unhappiness brought about by their failure to declare and act on their desire.