Mindgames, heartrending and poignant! Many of us spend much time asking questions of "WHY?", "WHY ME?", "WHY US?" fueling the fire of hurt, betrayel and co-dependency. The "need" to forget and forgive surfaces only because that is what "a good human is supposed to do". Not true! There is no "good" or "bad" human, only humans with their human-ness. "Sir" was as much a sufferer of your hell as you were his. To paraphrase what Khalil Gibran says: How is it possible to condemn the one with the tortured/twisted soul; he creates his own hell to burn in while burning those around him. When you understand "Sir's" human-nes you won't feel the need to "forgive" or "forget". The shackles of pain will fall away. Just expressing my thoughts on "forgiveness"!