I agree with Gurl_Interrupted that people should come out with such experiences so that others can learn from them. However, it is important that the message not be distorted. In this case, i think the lesson is certainly NOT a) that arranged marriages are bad b) that life for a woman marrying a guy living in the US is bad. I can cite many more cases of happy arranged marriages than successful love marriages. And when I say happy, i am considering the fact that both individuals want to be in the relationship, and are not forced to remain together due to societal pressures. Also, I would say the majority of nepalese women who married guys in the US prefer to live in the US simply because of the higher standards of living, better future for their children, and freedom, which they normally would not enjoy whie living under the same roof as their saasu sasura while adhering to nepalese cultural values. THe lesson that I got is simply that one should look before leaping. In this case, the girl had almost made up her mind without even seeing the guy. She should have done her due diligence, and made an effort to get to know the guy's self. It's all water under the bridge now, but had she done her homework this would not have happened. She just happened to be unlucky. If the guy had continued behaving the way he did at the beginning, she would have had a very happy life, so its just a case of bad luck. Having said all of this, i feel sorry for her, and I hope she finds a way to be truly happy. THe silver lining is that she probably came out of this a lot stronger and wiser. Also, the irony is that she is in a much better position to become self-sufficient in the US than she would have been if her husband had deserted her in nepal. Good luck to her...