hey y'all, ,thank you for all your inputs..and specially @kakakul for such a detailed explanation, thanks for your time..now, i have to make a few things clear, i'm not as new here as some of you are thinking..been here for 2 years...and the guy is not my own brother..just pallo ghar ko dai from my village..i didnt think i'd have to share the other part of the story but i guess i will do it to make things clear to you guys..he is a very nice person and has really helped me a lot..which i'll never be able to pay back..and im really grateful for his help..i've never underestimated how much he has done for me...however, he does make me feel every now and then how im surviving only because of him..its never justified to make someone feel how they depend on you or how helpful you've been and they couldn't have made it without you..its God who helps us...people are just mediums..someone has truly said..if you help with your right hand, your left hand shouldn't know about it...it means do not show off your help you know..it hurts...however, i knew all the benefits that you guys are talking about now...and thats why i always controlled myself and didnt move out...and did my best to keep things normal..but a few months ago..he really really hurt my feelings...he doesn't even take into account that i pay for myself..and always tells me how miserable my life would be if i had to live like other nepali students...i couldn't take it anymore..he forced me to move out...my self respect was telling me to leave right away...but where would i go in this country without a car (you can check my other posting about buying a used car)..so i've been saving as much as i can for a car..and then i'll move out...i know i'll not have all these lifestyle i have..i like my privacy so much which i will loose..i've my own way of living which i'll have to sacrifice...i dont drink...i'd rarely find someone who doesnt drink...but i've decided to sacrifice all these..just to keep my head high...and you know what's interesting? it was MY DAD who gave him all the money he needed to come to the US when he got his visa..around 10 lakhs..but neither my dad nor me ever made him feel that even we helped him when he needed..even when he turned so ugly i didnt open my mouth..because we've been raised to be respectful..and been taught all the philosophies of life..we don't help someone and then make them feel how we helped them otherwise they could not make it...you might think so what makes him act like that? just my little mistakes and his mood swings..