All these suggestions are how to not be ur self and act like a joe bojo so u can fit in as an american.yes we know when someone holds the door we should thank you. Yes we also know Americans like to be called by their names.I guess like the thread originator wants to point out where does that end.if u become a complete bakula then what happens to ur kauwa identity after all ur a kauwa deep inside. I think u should be ur self.hang out with educated people they are usually curious and accepting. And remember this is a country where most parents kick their children once they turn 18 and parents loan 200 dollars to their kids and ask them when are they returning it. Most ,epali parents dedicate their lives to their children. Its just the way it is u r not going to find such level of togetherness and genuine caring in foreign land. We r rich in some aspects and ur are now realizing that cuz for the most part u thought monay and career is the biggest importance and u forgot about ur most precious possession. Jee I can't believe some of the wannn bees trying to tell to be a bananna .