Posted by: khalisisi June 6, 2011
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I hear what you are saying.
Here are a few tips/tricks/$0.2 or whatever you wanna call it.
1. Since we are "different", people will not come to you, you have to go to people .
2. If you are trying hard and still are not making any friends, maybe you are trying too hard.
3. Find a hobby, E.g. you like to read go to the library, and find out if they have a book club assoicated with them or have classes for one language or the other. You can meet tons of great people at the library. Same goes for any hobby.
4. American culutre is a sharp edged sword, one has to develop a sense of humor and has to know how to "bust someone's chop"! Do not take anything personally, and when someone sounds rude to you , keep in mind that it might be their attempt at humor, let im/her have it! I am sure they will appreciate you for that (90% of the Americans I have met, do not like the subservient attitude)
5. make eye contacts with people, start with little compliments. when it comes to gaining confidence, a little smile from someone, esp someone from the other sex does wonders to confidence. The more confident you become the less of a creep you become ("creepy" is anyone an american will never become friends with, not even if they are a creep themselves lol). Remember to get something you have to give something. Moreover, this does not have to be "sexual"
6. READ, learn about America as much as you can. If you are in Rome act like a Roman!
7. Hit a bar and become friends with the bartender, if the bartender is a woman and you are a man, do not try to hit on her, she will appreciate it and might even introduce you with a few cool people!
8. If you do not succed at the first few times, do not lose hope, there are plenty of people who feel the same way as you. Even Americans.
9. Talk to your Nepali friends sometimes they know a lot of cool people around. Friends do not necessarily have to be "Americans" I have had great friends from all parts of the world. That's the beauty of this place.
10. America is not Nepal, so please forget about chiya pasal hangout/conversation and that level of friendship with most of the people. Make a few good friends and stick to them.
11. If none of these work, Work on your personality. Maybe something is wrong in that front. We look like slobs sometimes, without us catching any wind of it whatsoever. Self analysis is sometimes helpful.
Good luck Amigo!
Here are a few tips/tricks/$0.2 or whatever you wanna call it.
1. Since we are "different", people will not come to you, you have to go to people .
2. If you are trying hard and still are not making any friends, maybe you are trying too hard.
3. Find a hobby, E.g. you like to read go to the library, and find out if they have a book club assoicated with them or have classes for one language or the other. You can meet tons of great people at the library. Same goes for any hobby.
4. American culutre is a sharp edged sword, one has to develop a sense of humor and has to know how to "bust someone's chop"! Do not take anything personally, and when someone sounds rude to you , keep in mind that it might be their attempt at humor, let im/her have it! I am sure they will appreciate you for that (90% of the Americans I have met, do not like the subservient attitude)
5. make eye contacts with people, start with little compliments. when it comes to gaining confidence, a little smile from someone, esp someone from the other sex does wonders to confidence. The more confident you become the less of a creep you become ("creepy" is anyone an american will never become friends with, not even if they are a creep themselves lol). Remember to get something you have to give something. Moreover, this does not have to be "sexual"
6. READ, learn about America as much as you can. If you are in Rome act like a Roman!
7. Hit a bar and become friends with the bartender, if the bartender is a woman and you are a man, do not try to hit on her, she will appreciate it and might even introduce you with a few cool people!
8. If you do not succed at the first few times, do not lose hope, there are plenty of people who feel the same way as you. Even Americans.
9. Talk to your Nepali friends sometimes they know a lot of cool people around. Friends do not necessarily have to be "Americans" I have had great friends from all parts of the world. That's the beauty of this place.
10. America is not Nepal, so please forget about chiya pasal hangout/conversation and that level of friendship with most of the people. Make a few good friends and stick to them.
11. If none of these work, Work on your personality. Maybe something is wrong in that front. We look like slobs sometimes, without us catching any wind of it whatsoever. Self analysis is sometimes helpful.
Good luck Amigo!