Folks please provide your insights from your experiences and wisdom and enlighten me. My dilemma has been to understand and familiarize a genuine social connection in the West.  I came to the West in my early 20’s for a Master’s program.  I graduate from the 2 year program and worked in East coast for 2 years of my profession. During these 4 years of stay I had missed a genuine friendship and relationship as I did back in home country Nepal.

 

So, I went back to Nepal and stay there for almost 1 year and half. In the mean time as I was working I was able to establish genuine friendship and intimate relationship. I really enjoyed an authentic social connection as I did before going to West.

 

Now, again for residency I moved to the West and have been living in West Coast for almost 2 and half years. My survival story is kinda repeating again. I like my career out here but am again struggling to have an authentic friendship and intimate relationship. I have wondered this within my mind for a quite a time. Why is it happending! What is the reason for this?  It makes me question if it is my personality and attitude problem!!! I have tried every way that I can by volunteering in community, signing up for meetups, joining various social clubs etc. Yet I am not able to find authentic and consistent social connections.   

 

Have you folks been in such dilemma? Your disclosures might help me understand as to what I am going through.

 

Please do let me know!

Last edited: 06-Jun-11 02:26 PM