Some people are fortunate to find love by chance. And later, swear up and down that it was fate. Some people are foolish enough to fall in love at first site. And later, swear up and down they were drunk. And for some people, niether of the two ever happens. The reasons maybe many but we are not here to discuss those reasons. Love. Is it worth more if it finds you or if you find it? We as Nepalis have been transplanted into a world that make us home sick within our own home. We show our sickness through imitating the life styles of Nepalis in the motherland. Sul jips and room salons. Its not a Nepali invention but we sure act like it is. In the days of the old western frontiers, men resorted to going to Saloons where saloon women sat around them and gave them the comforts of womanly company. Men resorted to mail order brides and occassionally resorted to taking on an indian woman. Such is the portion of the American population today. The sons and daughters of the frontier. We Nepali men are no different than those men of the old US western frontier. Our parents came to the US and worked hard to build a Pondarosa and as the three sons of Mr. Cartwright did, we also look for brides. The luxury of having a girlfriend is not an option when you are dealing with such desperate situations. The luxury of knowing who you marry is not available for those who didn't reserve a seat in the first class section of life. So my advice to the younger people is..... Don't feel desperate. Don't feel rushed. Don't rely on time or fate. Its ok to go looking. Its ok to admit that there is very little chance. Its ok to try other people's suggestions. Don't be quick to marry or be presured by time restraints. Make every encounter a meaningful one. Love is blind and if you see TOO much in some one, you are not in love. Knowing a person to love that person is different than knowing that person to trust him/her. Chemistry is important but if you've been on your 100th date and you just can't seem to feel chemistry with anybody, then you might want to lower your expectations. Love sometimes comes instantly and sometimes it comes with time. And it goes away just as quick and slow. But friendship lasts forever.