hurray i think there are many of us who are in the same boat. it is worse when you have kids. then you are really divided. we have already missed out a lot in life while trying to struggle here. while stressing for school, jobs and immigration we forget that our parents are waking up at 4 in the morning to pull water into the tank. while we are over joyed by our accomplishment such as getting a work permit  here we forget that they are fighting with the crowd while running around for errands. we forget that our little bhai bhahees , bhanja bhanjees are getting older and getting married and going abroad for studies. when we go see them we have no connection. our relatives are getting older and dying and we can't be there. yet, like someone up there said we wait till weekends to hangout with Nepalis. i don't know about you but when i was in my late teens and early 20s i loved going out and trying things but now i am in my mid 30s i like to stay home and hang out with other Nepalis..i feel like i can relate more with my fellow people than talking about turkey for 3 hours, or lawn care which don't interest me. my friends in Nepal are lot happier than me. they never worry about losing jobs or being unemployed. they have become managers and enjoying their lives with their loved ones.