Nepalinus
First of all tell us what u want us to do? Just share ur pain or give u suggestions. If the latter is true then I see many good suggestions posted above (eg Rekha's) and u don't seem to be doing anything about them, just complaining.
U have to take this in your hand. I think intervention is the way to go. You might want to involve some closed ones and have a meeting then confront ur husband together. Give him the ultimatum change his behavior or Devorce will be filed. If he does it again contact an attorney asap. If u think there is no way changing him, contact the attorney right now and file for devorce. Tell them u r unable to oay the legal fees. In most cases the husband has to bear ur expenses too.
Stop feeling bad for urself...get up and act!!