You know what is really funny is that whenever I go to Nepali gatherings in the States, it is like going to mamaghar you know. It is very similar. All the men are in one corner huddled togethor. Most likely talking politics. All the women are in another corner talking about who knows what....showing off their sarees and jewellery. 

And all the kids are running around chasing each other. That's the way it was during festivals at the mamaghar. Except in my mamaghar we could go running and yelling where there were no adults. But here in the Nepali gatherings, man, those kids can shriek.

It drives the organizers crazy. But most of the parents feel that this is the only time for their kids to associate with other Nepali kids and so they let them have fun.

But one thing for parents today is that I think that we cannot afford to be as authoritarian as our parents were. With our parents many times when they told us "this is red." We were not expected to contradict. Today's kids need all kinds of logic and reasoning. And because our kids grow up half in this culture and half in our Nepali culture, I think they go through struggles that we cannot fully appreciate. They are not fully Nepalese and not fully Americans. This has special challenges.