well bro, I am both, Its a different situation for us now because we are here in the US and I know things would have been different If I was back home, here we have each other in a different land where we try so hard to fit in. We both support each other and work hard and since our baby is born here he will have a different life but we will do our best to teach  him our roots and help him learn and understand all about our culture. He will however decide, all we can do is guide him with love and care. BUT it would have been a lot different if we were living in Nepal, so many relatives, so many helping hands and so many distractions. BUT i know  what my duty and a husband and a father is, unconditional love my friend.