Guys,

I saw the topic of marriage on one of the threads. This is a little strange topic because in Nepal we don't talk about these things.

I was thinking about both the role of a father and role of a husband. Our fathers and grandfathers behaves as fathers and husbands in a certain way. But today the world is different in some ways than how our fathers and grandfathers were used to. What does it mean to be a father and husband today?

The way I saw my father fulfill the role of a father was that he was a provider. I think that was the greatest thing. I never sat and talked with my father. It was more very practical things. In many ways my father provided very little guidance to me besides telling me to study.

Again in the role of a husband my father was a provider. And in many ways in Nepal, it seems that if a man can provide for his wife and children with money then he has done his duty.

But many of us are living in America. And life here gets pretty complicated. We need to learn to communicate and be aware of many things. So I wanted to ask you guys. What do you feel that it means for us to be good husbands and fathers? How is it different from what our fathers and grand-fathers had to do?