I know it's easy to say, but hard to accept. I'd say, just move on and learn from the things. Get into relationship and give as much as love possible to your own kids, but don't spoil them. Every parents are not good to their children. I knew that after reading crime stories here. Feel lucky that you're not orphan and had a very loving father and you weren't abused when you were kid. I've read parents killing their own kids, or beating them severely even to the ones as young as infants; locking them in closets for several hours (2 out of 4 died in a closet; news from last week) or even starving the kids to death or other kinds of physical abuse. Even in Nepal, in some parts, parents basically sell their kids to to pimps or as 'kamalaris'. Gender discrimination among the kids are still not rare in Nepal. I've seen the cases of the parents alienating the kids for the rest of life for not marrying the girl or boy of their choice. Here also, kids get caught up in parent's divorce.