@ hurray  I think ur wife's case n mine are similar...it is definitely hard for both of us.....not getting the due but i guess we think good for them n i think the person hurting us doesnot deserve our love or any kind of attention we give.....

 let me give u an instance  I had bought my mom one of the most expensive lipsticks and tht too 3 of them and thought she might liked it ...my sister had bought other lipsticks from nepal and clearly the quality was poor but my mom said bluntly tht the lipstciks i bought were useless n doesnot use it anymore and how my sister had bought her a better lipstick...it might seem small thing but most definitely has had an impact on me...from tht day i decided i am never goin to buy her anyhting ..i have not sent her anyhting....i feel like buying everything in my capacity for her but then my mind quickly switches and recalls all the harsh words she said abt the stuffs i had sent.....so i have quit doin it.....there is more to it.....some are so hard to digest ...i get choked up when i think or talk abt it..... there is more to this story...

thank u so much