ChicksRock,

It sounds like your mother is blackmailing you. You are sending money and all that so that you can buy affection from her. And your mother, she knows your weakness. She knows how much you need her affection and attention. She knows how much you need to heal your broken soul. And it seems that the more you are feeling desperate for her affection and attention, the more she can use that to get what she wants out of you. Basically she is saying that unless you give her what she wants--money, she will not give you the time and attention that you are seeking from her.