Syanjali,

Thanks for your post. As painful as it is for the individual, I think that abandoning people who don't fit a certain criteria has its benefits also. It is nature's way of preserving traits that are considered beneficial. The logic is: what is the point of encouraging traits that are not beneficial.

Specific to Nepal though, I feel that one reason we are so jugdemental as a society is because we have a very narrow standard of what is acceptable traits in our society. I think that we are very quick to reject people who don't fit a narrow standard.

I feel that the more resources that a society enjoys, the more open-minded it tends to be about what is acceptable. The fewer resources that a society has, the more close-minded people are. I feel that this is why Nepal and Nepalese are close-minded.