Syanjali, I have been always honest about my lfiestyle in the USA. I have talked my nephew and nieces into not coming to America. Lots of kids now a days already know that from their friends or relatives anyway. i've only been to Nepal twice in more than a decade and i haven't been able to send money or do anything lavish so they know i'm poor.. most of my friends have gone back, among those who have gone back and with political connections they are making more than 80k Nepali rupees a month and enjoying their life more than they would over here. those who did not have any political connections but talented are wonering what to do, most want to go to aus or UK.. struggling part is not easy be it in Nepal or USA.. it's just that we come to usa in our struggling time of life and think it's all struggling.. i don't know man..i'm lost and confused myself.. good luck