As ridiculous as it sounds, I am puzzled of how segregated we Nepalese are.  There are Newar meetings, Thakali meetings, Thakuri meetings, Rai meetings, sherpa meetings etc etc (All divided by caste)  and same goes with NJ.  To be segregated and have the upper cast/lower cast thing in our blood.  No matter how educated we are,  95% of us have that in our blood and there is no denying that.

Verbally  a lot of them take the high road but when it really comes down....you are there in one of those meetings and I just think it is wrong.  To show up is to encourage meetings like that...we already see whats happening in Nepal at least dont do it here for crying out loud!!